Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Love marriage

"We had a love marriage, I had long ago decided no arranged marriage for me. I saw S at the Mall, it was love at first sight for me. I know she was the one. I told my friend straight away that she is going to be my wife. She was so beautiful. Three months later, we got married with parent's consent. I don't know how people have arranged marriage."

- Someone.

Update: First, The above words have been spoken at different times by different people and this was just an amalgmation of those words - I tried to mimic the language too(obv. #Fail there).

And what I meant was, how different is this sort of 'Love' Marriage from a traditional arranged marriage where the boy and girl see for few minutes and decide. Infact, Arranged marriages these days have become arranged blind dates where Man and woman get to know each other for a period of a month/two over several meetings in my social sphere. 

I always try to control my laughter at this irony.

I wasnt riled up by the comments against "arranged marriage" like most of you were. Not sure why.  Not definitely because I feel less of arranged marriage myself,  to me Marriage is a marriage as long as it works the paths dont matter.  But that wasnt my peeve at all. And what is with the term 'love' marriage - isnt these days a marriage by itself means love.

In general I have never been a fan of this 'love at first sight', the only way it translates in my head is a 'Mega crush' which is probably why I found this sort of statement ironic. Looks like I am the only one to feel this way.

13 comments:

  1. is this vayathu erichal? or anti marriagism? or a statement made by you..:P

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  2. looks more like vaytharichal..all bay area nari like that vonly..free

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  3. Praveen: what was that smile for?

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  4. arrange marriage panravanga elam ore pavam... aiyo da!

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  5. we want the feedback -
    after some 5 years!

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  6. Everything is fine, except the last line! Never judge other people, talk how much ever you want about yourself :--P
    Idhellam namma office case thana?

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  7. Every one: have updated the post.
    Soin: Bay area and nari? onum puriyala but Naan sense
    SK: Ellama, it wasnt in the oppice:)

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  8. @Soin: Dai..me too the same bay area..

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  9. Having had a successful "love" marriage and having had these debates often, all I can say is there are pros and cons to both.A marriage is good as long as it works and one will never realize how good/bad a person is, unless one lives with him/her.2 cents.

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  10. Viswajith: ofcourse he meant you.
    Shoba: ofcourse, my grouse wasnt against love/ arranged but bumping into them once and deciding them for the rest of life and then calling it love marriage i have an issue with. Worse they will claim, they did suthify like others do and directly made the parents speak to each other.

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  11. Ha! I see what you mean: it is no different from seeing a photograph. You are just seeing the girl at a random place instead.

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  12. Saumya: Thk u, finally one person got it.

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